We know this is an extremely difficult time for you, as well as for your friend or loved one. You are probably very worried and may not know what to do. We are here to help you both through this crisis.
.Treat the issue seriously: First of all, you should take this really seriously. It is not just attention seeking. Someone who is talking about feeling suicidal is likely to try to take their own life. Honour the persons trust by showing them kindness and compassion. Reassure them that you will get them the help they need.
Take Action: Talk to them about Chris’s House and maybe show them this website. Tell them you will be happy to phone us to make the initial appointment and that you will come with them to the first meeting. When you call us, a trained center manager will ask you some questions to make sure that you are bringing your friend or family member to the right place. Then we will arrange an appointment for them as soon as possible.
Create a support network: Before the appointment, be supportive and vigilant. Involve other family members and friends. Let this person see how much they are loved and wanted. Although they may ask you not to tell anyone how they are feeling, it is crucial to tell certain people (possibly their parents, family or friends) who can help you to help them through the crisis. Try to keep your friend or loved one active. Go for walks, sit with them and try not to allow them to spend time alone.
Visit Chris’s House: There is nothing to worry about when you come to see us. We treat everyone with dignity and respect. And we will welcome you both warmly. At the first meeting, the person will talk to one of our team over a cup of tea or coffee in a warm and supportive setting. They will try to identify why the person finds themselves in crisis. On the way home, try not to ask too many questions. We hope you will see a slight change as the person in crisis gets their first glimpse of light at the end of the tunnel.
Stay supportive: Next, we will suggest one of our therapists to work with your friend or family member. They will see the therapist as soon as possible, there is also someone on call at weekends, as this can be a difficult time for someone who is feeling suicidal. We will also advise friends and family on how to offer support. Finally, check in with the person every day over the next couple of weeks. Find out how they are feeling. Some days they may feel great, but other days they might seem very low again. This is quite normal, but if you are worried, contact us.